Showing posts with label Someone. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Someone. Show all posts

4/15/2010

Finding Someone to Love

Everywhere you look it seems that there are people in love. They hold hands, they kiss, they gaze into each others' eyes, they play and most important, they connect.

As an outsider looking in it seems that love must come easily. Love, for the most part, is a natural part of being alive. Connecting to another human being is the hard part. It doesn't matter who you are, where you come from, or what your beliefs are, finding someone to love is a job all in itself.

When you finally decide that the search is on, where do you begin? The tried and true method of being set up by a friend or relative on a blind date becomes old and boring like the last 10 dates you were on. Meeting someone at work, that's a possibility, but also risky, because when it ends who gets to stay at the workplace? Are you a bar hopper? Singles do tend to hang out in crowds and the crowds tend to gravitate toward the bar. Online dating is probably the most popular resource, but it also has its' own downfalls and risks. Back to square one.

Finding someone to love starts with you. Being familiar with your own tastes and desires is the beginning of forming a relationship with someone else. Get to know what it is you want out of life and even more so, out of a relationship. Are you a whole person? Will the next person you allow into your personal space be only a fraction of a person who helps to make up the whole of you? Or is that person whole and healthy and able to give their self freely. Love is about coming into the relationship as a whole person ready, willing and able to complement one another, for better or for worse.

Connecting is more than just the kiss or gaze. It is a commitment to another soul that there is safety and trust in the bond. It is about loving and caring for another.

Finding someone to love shouldn't be your part-time or full-time job. Love will come when you fulfill this commitment to yourself. Lighten up. Work on who you are. What you want will come later. Love is out there for you to find and hold onto. Be patient

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3/26/2010

Online Dating For Seniors - How to Find That Special Someone and Keep Safe

Dating is fun at any age. And the avenues for meeting other singles continue to expand. One such avenue is online dating for seniors and people over 50. In fact there are dating services dedicated to this age group.

Older singles often approach the dating scene with hesitation if not trepidation. This need not be, for an older heart gets as lonely as a young one, though an older one can deal with this with more maturity.

No, dating does not get any easier with age. The same angst you had on a first date back in the days will still announce its presence today.

But the good thing is this; with right precautions and good old commonsense, online dating for seniors can be fun and safe, even more so than traditional dating.

The world of mature online dating is teeming with available singles. And they come from all walks of life. Some are widowed, others are divorced and yet others have delayed marriage for various reasons, including career considerations. How do you connect with all those all singles?

The first thing you should do is sign up with a reputable dating site. Assuming that you're neither a cougar nor a sugar daddy (excuse the labels), you should sign up with a specialty dating site for older people. And unless money is really a problem, you should avoid free sites. Why?

You see, free sites do not offer as much security and customer support as paid site. Also with free dating sites, there is paper trail. Any small-time crook or con artist can sign up with a fake name and post a fake personal profile with stolen picture. In fact, many scammers have been known to specifically target older people because they are presumably more desperate and vulnerable.

This is not to say that you are one hundred per cent safe in a paid site, but the fact that the person can be traced through a credit card should be more reassuring.

Why should you sign up with a senior dating site and not a general site? Are there no older singles in general dating services and don't the popular general dating services have bigger membership databases?

Sure, you can use the advance search features in general dating sites to narrow down your search down to certain demographics. But the advantage of using specialty online dating services for seniors is that virtually everyone on that site is looking for a partner of the same age group. The field is already narrowed down for you.

Also, senior online dating services are designed for ease of use. The developers understand the challenges that many of this age group encounter and provide as much assistance and helpful features as possible.

However, just signing up with online dating sites of seniors is not enough ensure success. You need to set yourself apart from the others and stand out from the crowd. How can you do this?

Well, the one thing that will set you apart is your personal profile. Start by posting a good photo of yourself as you look like today. Do not post a photo that was taken during your younger days, however flattering this might seem.

Next, write your profile in a way that shows your individuality and uniqueness. Being older, you have certain unique and interesting experiences. These should come through in your profile. But do your best to avoid the appearance of bragging.

You should also be proactive and initiate contact with others rather than just sit and wait to be contacted. Initiate contact regularly, but avoid a "kid in candy store" mentality: do not try to contact too many people too fast.

Take time and read the other person's profile as this will give you an idea of what to say in your initial email or instant message. The other person will also like the fact that you actually read their profile, therefore increasing the odds of getting a response.

And while you're at it, don't forget that you are dealing with strangers. This is a mistake some people make once they have been communicating with another person for a while. They begin to feel like they know the other person and let down their guard, sometimes with dire results. And never give out personal information until you are fairly comfortable with the person.

Online dating for seniors can be fun. Even better, it can bring you together with the person of your dreams. You just have to get started.

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